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Raksha Kumar
Freelance Multimedia Journalist
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Thursday, 04 October 2018

Child Sex Abuse: Is There A "Good Touch" And "Bad Touch"?

The piece throws light on a completely contrary belief when it comes to child sexual abuse.

While recounting their experiences, many survivors of child sexual abuse speak about stimulation, arousal, excitement, thrill, pleasure, as well as feelings of being loved, accepted and gratification at the time when they were abused—especially in stages of grooming or the initial stages of abuse.

The piece talks about how guilt and shame are not the only feelings harboured by the survivors of sexual abuse. Apparently, some survivors feel wanted and loved. 

The victims believe that they have an exclusive relationship with the abuser and that they are important to the abuser; that the abusers love them, care for them, and need them. This seduction process—also known as grooming—is critical to the process of entrapment.

However, things go downhill from there. And this active participation by the survivors of abuse makes them feel like they are a party to it. And that is where therapists come into the picture. 

The "good touch, bad touch" approach to teach kids about sexual abuse is not effective enough, the author argues. Abuse starts with the "good touch" but turns into "bad touch". Here's a survivor's account: 

“I cannot even remember the precise time when it had turned sexual,” recounted Rizwan in a session where he was working with me as his facilitator. “I cannot remember whether he made the first move or got me stimulated. I cannot remember whether I asked for it.”

Emotional intimacy and stimulation are often the most confusing. Therefore, we need a different approach to teach kids about sexual abuse. 

Child Sex Abuse: Is There A "Good Touch" And "Bad Touch"?
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