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Boom and bust

Malia Politzer
Editor of piqd.com. International Investigative Journalist
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Tuesday, 27 June 2017

China's Mistress Dispellers: How The Economic Boom And Gender Inequality Have Created A New Industry

In China's Mistress Dispeller, The New Yorker staff writer Jiayang Fan shines a light on a curious phenomenon: an industry of private detectives, secret advisers, and love doctors that wives hire to save their marriages when they learn that their husbands have strayed.  

The tactics of a mistress dispeller can take a number of forms: they might bribe the mistress to leave, or use their social networks to get her reassigned to a job in another part of the country. Or they might try to use shame to convince her to leave by sending notes about the affair to friends and family. Women mistress dispellers might try to become a confidante, and try to convince the mistress "as a friend" as to why they should leave. Male mistress dispellers might try to seduce them. Some wives even go to classes on how to keep their husband's happy - usually in secret, so their husbands don't suspect a "manipulation". 

The author also makes a compelling case as to how the industry arose from a unique blend of China's rapid economic rise, and deeply entrenched gender norms and institutionalized patriarchy: laws that allow men (generally the property owners) to keep the homes they bought before their marriage and the social stigma of a woman divorcee ensures that "in divorces, women suffer disproportionately".

Though a rather disturbing read for Western feminists, Fan asserts that the mistress dispeller:

"Offers an odd vision of empowerment, achieved through pragmatic acceptance of a retrograde model of marriage. Husbands are to be flattered, seductive clothes worn ('a relationship necessity'), and all the work of the relationship done by the wife, without the husband ever being aware of it. 'Marriage is like the process of learning to swim,' Ming said. 'It doesn’t matter how big or fancy your pool is, just like it doesn’t always matter how good your husband is. If you don’t know how to swim, you will drown in any case, and someone else who knows how to swim will get to enjoy the pool'.”
China's Mistress Dispellers: How The Economic Boom And Gender Inequality Have Created A New Industry
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